Chapter 58: You Don't Know my Struggle

What I have found over the years is that single women tell married women that they (the married women) don't know what it's like to be single in these times. Married women tell single women that their lives (single women) are much better, freer, and possibly more simple than theirs. Women with children do the same thing by telling women who are not mothers that their lives (the child-less women) are not as tough as theirs. I have learned that you can't judge a person based on what status they are or what they have or lack thereof. There are women who have no children of their own that take care of their parents or work several jobs and go to school at night. There are educated women who are homeless or women who are struggling to survive to say the least. In essence everyone's experience as a single person isn't the same as others. I remember a friend of mine got angry because someone told her that because she was in the military he "knew" or assumed that she was promiscuous. Her reaction was, just because you were promiscuous while you were in the military, doesn't mean that I am. I can equate that to other stages in life. Just because your single life was a certain way doesn't mean that mine is like yours. Ultimately, I think that people enjoy telling other people that "you don't know my story" or "you don't know what it feels like to be me."