I was reading my friend's blog one day and I noticed that she had a really good idea. She wrote about 30 things that she would like to do before she turns 30. I liked it so much that I decided to think about what I would like to do. I'm sorry MC for using your idea! I'm not sure if I will get to do everything, but I'm working on it. It's all in love and fun. Here it goes...
1. Go to the Caribbean to a Carnival Festival (DONE! Thanksgiving 2007-Nassau, Bahamas Carnival/Festival)
2. Go on Tom Joyner's Fantastic Voyage
3. Finish my Master's Program (I will be done in May! Yea!!!)
4. Maybe get a specialist degree...field unknown...possibly educational leadership with a focus in higher education...the jury is still out about the doctoral degree...
5. Go Scuba Diving or swimming with dolphins
6. Ride a horse...It's sad that I'm from a city that breads more horses than the cities in Kentucky for the Kentucky Derby and I've only sat on a horse and rode for a few minutes. I don't quite remember riding it very far.
7. Ride a motorcycle
8. Meet "The One"....in a world where it seems hopeless, I believe that I will meet my husband. (if I haven't met him already...)
9. Begin writing a book
10. Start my own business
11. Begin work on my own charitable foundation
12. Go to Seattle
13. Go to Hawaii
14. Take a Belly Dancing class
15. Buy ANOTHER home...I'm so thankful that I can say that I bought my first home at 24, so I want to continue owning property.
16. Learn how to build webpages and websites...the information from the course I took in college has officially left my memory.
17. Start a family. I want to have a baby. If I don't complete #8 on the list, then I can wait. I want a soul mate and a husband...not a baby's daddy.
18. Maintain a size 12 or simply a healthy weight for my height
19. Learn how to speak another language....I'm going to be kind to myself about this. This is just for fun. If I should ever go to Puerto Rico or Spain, I don't want to sound like an idiot.
20. Learn latin dances and ballroom dances
21. Build a Habitat for Humanity House for someone in my community.
22. Go to the Cirque du Soliel
23. See Prince in concert
24. See the Pacific Ocean.
25. Get a dog.
26. Dance in the rain (DONE! Both figuratively and literally)
27. Go fishing
28. Learn how to scrapbook
29. Fly first class somewhere.
30. Become a member of an investment club
Friday, May 25, 2007
Wednesday, May 23, 2007
Chapter 2: What Does the "Ideal" Man Look Like?
I used to write down all of the characteristics that I thought were ideal for me in a man, but when I got those characteristics in the guys that I've dated, I changed my mind. It wasn't what I believed it to be. So today, I thought that it would be cool to think about what I really want at this point of my life. This is what I think the "ideal" man looks like.
1. I believe that my ideal man would have dreams for himself. No one is perfect, but I think that in order to achieve what you want in life, we have to dream first. I know that I don't want to be in the same position for the rest of my life. I want to do big things one day. I want my ideal man to have the same ideals in that regard. It is a big turn off if a man is working for minimum wage and he says that he's never thought about suceeding beyond that. I think he should have a career or be on his way to a career. Not just a job, but a career. Something that he works at, but he believes that his work is part of his journey and calling in life. Not that he has to have found himself at 25, but he needs to be on his way. One bit at a time.
2. He should have a passion for something other than himself. I don't particularly like selfish people as I don't think of myself to be selfish. It is hard for me to consider loving someone that seldomly considers doing things that may not directly benefit him. I am always interested in learning new things. I want someone who can teach me about the things he is passionate about and enjoys. When a person is passionate about something, it can be a reflection of what they believe their purpose in life is or what this part of thier journey is about.
3. He should be someone who likes to have fun. I'm an introverted, yet goofy person. I like to have fun! I wouldn't want someone who will look at me like I'm crazy when I want to sing or make jokes.
4. He would be happy seeing me happy and I would be happy seeing him happy. Someone who wouldn't mind enriching my life and adding to my happiness. I don't believe that a man can solely make you happy if you aren't already happy with yourself, but I do believe that he can add to it. I hate it when men are so full of themselves and don't want to do things that could be meaningful and fun for his lady.
5. Of course, looks are important, but maybe equally as important as sincerity and personality. I like tall, dark, and handsome men, but a man with a nice smile is a plus. I need to be able to enjoy looking at him as well as talking to him.
6. I like a man who knows how to be a gentleman. I'm southern and southern hospitatlity is important to me. I like when a man opens doors and when he is sincerely respectful. Sometimes, I feel like I am wishing for a fairy tale, but I like tradition.
7. I used to say that I want a man who doesn't have kids, but I'm looking at it realistically and I notice that almost everyone has kids at this age! If he does have children, he needs to have a good relationship with them. He and the child or children's mother need to have a cordial relationship as well. I don't need the extra drama! My only concern would be why isn't he with the children's mother? I man who can take care of his kids and spend time to develop them is important. It takes more to raise kids than a check.
8. I like men who have a good relationship with their family members, especially his mother. I believe that a man learns who to treat an other woman from the first women in his life.
9. I say yes to Jesus....he should too. I say no to drugs....he should too. I say no to pedifilia....he should too. It isn't being prejudiced, it's just a preference. I'm looking for a man who is after God's heart.
10. I want a man who is okay with being himself. He doesn't waste his time trying to be what he isn't and he is confident. I have a huge family and he needs to be confident and comfortable enough to be around me and my family. He doesn't have to pretend in front of me and I shouldn't have to feel that I have to hold back from him. If he's goofy, he should be okay with that, if he is a nerd, he should be okay with that. His inner person is displayed in his outer person.
11. Last, but not least, I want a man who is true to his word. I hate liars. If there's no reason to lie why do it? If you are upfront with me, I will respect that more than someone who tends to forget about me and my feelings. I need for him to remember things that are special to me and as far-fetched as it seems, he would give me the world if he could. In that respect, he needs to be honest and above all else, he needs to treat me like I'm special or as the bible says, "the salt of the earth" and virtuous.
I know that all of this seems unheard of and way too much, but it is what I dream of and pray for. If God wants me to have all of these things in one man, I know that he will let me have it. If he doesn't I know that he has something much, much better. I've been through quite a bit, but I do think that you have to kiss a lot of frogs until you find a prince. Everything works out for the good of those that love the Lord.
1. I believe that my ideal man would have dreams for himself. No one is perfect, but I think that in order to achieve what you want in life, we have to dream first. I know that I don't want to be in the same position for the rest of my life. I want to do big things one day. I want my ideal man to have the same ideals in that regard. It is a big turn off if a man is working for minimum wage and he says that he's never thought about suceeding beyond that. I think he should have a career or be on his way to a career. Not just a job, but a career. Something that he works at, but he believes that his work is part of his journey and calling in life. Not that he has to have found himself at 25, but he needs to be on his way. One bit at a time.
2. He should have a passion for something other than himself. I don't particularly like selfish people as I don't think of myself to be selfish. It is hard for me to consider loving someone that seldomly considers doing things that may not directly benefit him. I am always interested in learning new things. I want someone who can teach me about the things he is passionate about and enjoys. When a person is passionate about something, it can be a reflection of what they believe their purpose in life is or what this part of thier journey is about.
3. He should be someone who likes to have fun. I'm an introverted, yet goofy person. I like to have fun! I wouldn't want someone who will look at me like I'm crazy when I want to sing or make jokes.
4. He would be happy seeing me happy and I would be happy seeing him happy. Someone who wouldn't mind enriching my life and adding to my happiness. I don't believe that a man can solely make you happy if you aren't already happy with yourself, but I do believe that he can add to it. I hate it when men are so full of themselves and don't want to do things that could be meaningful and fun for his lady.
5. Of course, looks are important, but maybe equally as important as sincerity and personality. I like tall, dark, and handsome men, but a man with a nice smile is a plus. I need to be able to enjoy looking at him as well as talking to him.
6. I like a man who knows how to be a gentleman. I'm southern and southern hospitatlity is important to me. I like when a man opens doors and when he is sincerely respectful. Sometimes, I feel like I am wishing for a fairy tale, but I like tradition.
7. I used to say that I want a man who doesn't have kids, but I'm looking at it realistically and I notice that almost everyone has kids at this age! If he does have children, he needs to have a good relationship with them. He and the child or children's mother need to have a cordial relationship as well. I don't need the extra drama! My only concern would be why isn't he with the children's mother? I man who can take care of his kids and spend time to develop them is important. It takes more to raise kids than a check.
8. I like men who have a good relationship with their family members, especially his mother. I believe that a man learns who to treat an other woman from the first women in his life.
9. I say yes to Jesus....he should too. I say no to drugs....he should too. I say no to pedifilia....he should too. It isn't being prejudiced, it's just a preference. I'm looking for a man who is after God's heart.
10. I want a man who is okay with being himself. He doesn't waste his time trying to be what he isn't and he is confident. I have a huge family and he needs to be confident and comfortable enough to be around me and my family. He doesn't have to pretend in front of me and I shouldn't have to feel that I have to hold back from him. If he's goofy, he should be okay with that, if he is a nerd, he should be okay with that. His inner person is displayed in his outer person.
11. Last, but not least, I want a man who is true to his word. I hate liars. If there's no reason to lie why do it? If you are upfront with me, I will respect that more than someone who tends to forget about me and my feelings. I need for him to remember things that are special to me and as far-fetched as it seems, he would give me the world if he could. In that respect, he needs to be honest and above all else, he needs to treat me like I'm special or as the bible says, "the salt of the earth" and virtuous.
I know that all of this seems unheard of and way too much, but it is what I dream of and pray for. If God wants me to have all of these things in one man, I know that he will let me have it. If he doesn't I know that he has something much, much better. I've been through quite a bit, but I do think that you have to kiss a lot of frogs until you find a prince. Everything works out for the good of those that love the Lord.
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