Chapter 10: The Secret about the Secret

To be honest, I think the secret, which is not really a secret, to best things in life is God the Father, the Holy Spirit, and Jesus. I was watching Oprah the other day and I saw a re-run about the show on how single women can find men and why so many women are single. On the show I saw this lady, Kathy who has written a book called, The One. I read part of the book and I was almost angry because it emphasized part of what she believed "The Secret" to be. From my understanding, "the secret" is the notion that you get whatever you put out into the universe. In other words, the situations and circumstances in your life happen because of something that you give out to the world. While I believe that there are so many things that we put upon ourselves, such as the company that we keep, I don't believe that it is necessarily your fault when bad circumstances, situations, or maybe even stupid people come your way. A good example would be people living in poverty. Is it always their fault?

So when I watched Oprah, I understood both sides of the argument. As a single woman, I do agree that in some situations one can invite certain circumstances or people in one's life, but there is so much game out there in the world and there are people who are preditors to even the strongest women. Is that you're fault that you meet a stupid man? It is your fault when you behave in a certain manner, however. I think that there are people who come into one's life to teach them certain things. On the flip side of that, I do realize that men here in the world now are a different breed. It was so easy for the women on the show to talk about how there was so much that was wrong with the single women on the show, but I tend to think that there are things wrong with people in general. To say the least, it is truly "hard out here for a pimp." Dating can be rough for some and I think people should look at it holistically instead of trying to cast blame.

When I look at my situation, I don't believe that there's anything wrong with me. I believe that the Lord is strengthening me and allowing me to experience things so that I can not only give him honor, but also so that when I get married I won't have to sit and wonder what if. I can honestly say that I am living the single life with my own things and my own rules. My mother told me once that when things go wrong with me I tend to think that it's me and the truth is that the men that I've dealt with can't handle me or they are caught up in other things. It's not that I'm a bad woman or anything, I'm just on a different page. As hard as that is to dealt with, it is okay. So I say that to say that on one hand we are what we present to the world and God will give us what we need in the time of need, particularly in life's lessons, but in terms of what I understand from "the secret" it's almost like saying that good people will always get good things and those who do bad things will always get bad things. The bible says gifts come without repentence. It doesn't always work out that good people never have trouble and vice versa. Things do work together for the good of those who love the Lord, however. Again in the matter I think that instead of casting blame for one's situations in life, we should focus on ourselves...be it with the secret of without it. I just think that it's funny how people try to find answers for things that in some cases we may not be able to understand.